If you’ve spent any time on this earth, you know that life contains conflict. And there are times in the life of every leader when he or she needs to fight. But if you fight all the time, you can wear yourself out. That’s why it’s important to pick your battles. I am still on the road to learning and applying these. I’ve had victory and failure when it comes to picking my battles.
To gain a better perspective on when to fight back and when to “let it go,” practice the following disciplines:
1. Spend time with people who are different from you. This helps you appreciate and understand how others think and work. You will be less inclined to judge or battle them.
2. In matters of personal preference or taste, give in. Keep the main thing the main thing. If you don’t save your energy for what really matters, you’ll wear yourself out and wear out your welcome with others.
3. Don’t take things too personally. In general, hurting people hurt people. And they’re also easily hurt by others. Keep that in mind when you’re on the receiving end of someone’s anger.
4. Practice the 101% Principle. Whenever possible in a difficult situation, find the 1% that you do agree on and give it 100% of your effort.
5. Be a servant leader. If your mindset is to serve rather than be served, you will be less likely to encounter resistance.
The best team doesn’t always win;
it’s usually the team that gets along best.
Adapted from Teamwork Makes the Dreamwork – John C. Maxwell